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The Russian bath house as a metaphor for life

As I sat in the Russian & Turkish bath this afternoon, in a zen-like state of euphoria, I thought about how the bathhouse experience (at least, the way my Russian ass knows it) is much like the pursuit of happiness in life.

When I first got into the hot Russian sauna, it did not feel very good. Even still, I knew that the longer I stayed in there, the better I would feel afterwards. This is what I learned the first time my dad took me to a sauna in Russia (he taught me to stay in there for a while before coming out), and the payoff was amazing.

Now, having experienced the payoff, I deal with the initial discomfort of a hot ass sauna to get to that gold at the end of the rainbow.

Same thing goes for running out of said sauna, and dunking myself in an ice cold pool. The first time I do it, it sucks! It’s crazy cold, and shocking to the senses. But still, I know it’s worth it in the long run.

Once you repeat this pattern for 2-3 times, the 3rd time coming back into the sauna from the ice cold pool is nothing short of nirvana. Your body is refreshed. Your mind is clear. The pace of your breath, clean and steady. I finally got there! And what’s more, I don’t remember any of that initial discomfort I felt when I first got in the sauna and then ran into the pool. None of that matters, now that I feel so damn good.

Life to me is the same. The sauna and the pool represent hard work as you pursue what you love. It might suck at first, but if you know how good the pay off is you will do it anyway. The more you do it, the better it feels…until you reach the payoff! Succeeding while doing what you love. Nothing could be better.

The thing a lot of people struggle with is their first rewarding experience. Experiencing that payoff for the first time is what will drive you to get back into the heat in search of that feeling again. A lot of people don’t get there, so they’re not willing to grind it out at first because they don’t know if it’s worth it or not.

Hard work ALWAYS pays off. So, if you haven’t had your moment of zen yet, grind it out until you do. Then, you’ll be hooked!

That’s what hard work looks like…not really.


Thank God the World is Based on Common Sense

Well, somewhat. Read on, and let me explain myself. 

We’ve all come to that point in our lives. The point where our pre-determined future comes to an end and we have to make decisions for ourselves. Now, they are our own “life decisions”. As a young blood you’re like “woah, scary stuff!”

For me, it happened senior year of high school. I had been groomed somewhat to be a classical percussionist, something I suspect was my mother’s dream from very early on. When I was 7 she put me into the percussion program of the Preparatory Department at the Moscow Conservatory of Music. The rest was history … well, until I was 17 at least, and trying to figure out what I was going to do. 

A lot of signs were pointing to a classical performance degree at a conservatory. I even auditioned at one, and was accepted. But, for whatever reason, I approached the whole thing with a logical approach and a focus on the future outcome. I asked myself if I was prepared to make a decision that would pigeon hole me into a Symphony Orchestra somewhere in the country for the rest of my life as a classical percussionist or a percussion teacher. The answer was no. I simply did not know enough about the world at that point to make a call like that. So I didn’t allow myself to do it. Instead, I decided to go for a “marketing” degree at a liberal arts school. 

Since that initial decision, I tried to root all of my decision-making processes in personal logic and common sense. When, 2 years into my marketing degree, I decided that a business curriculum was too narrow and I was missing out on important skills like writing and communication, I switched my major to Journalism. My mother wasn’t very pleased. She even thought that I had only done that because I wasn’t confident I could finish the marketing degree. I pressed on, and let personal logic be my guide… 

I have always been passionate about music, and was lucky enough to work with some music industry professionals as a freshman in college. They told me if I was interested in putting my music and business interests together, I needed to get involved with music business organizations within my university. While I worked on my journalism degree, I also took on roles as a music editor at the school paper, a music and business director for the college radio station and a member of the school’s concert booking committee. My on-campus job was as a librarian … at the music library. By some stroke of luck or, in retrospect, by half a stroke of luck and half a series of logical decisions made based on my personal interests, my college radio post helped me land a dream internship with Vitaminwater. It was all because I had been at the right place at the right place … or at least, the place and time I thought were right for me. I was staying true to myself, and was seeing a little bit of the pay off then and there (even though I didn’t fully appreciate it at the time, and was more excited about my first real paycheck). 

I took my first marketing job out of college (mind you I graduated as a Journalism major and still got a marketing job) for no other reason than to make enough money to quit and go on tour with my band at the time. I did not like that job, but I liked the idea of touring around the country playing music with my friends. When friends drifted apart and the band dissolved, there was no other reason to stay at that job. I went back to my original logic tree. 

I wanted to combine music and business, my two passions. Unfortunately, this was 2007 and the music business was in shambles. People were getting laid off, major labels were freaking out … it was a bit of a mess. I started thinking about similar industries, that combined a creative function and a business aspect. This is exactly how I ended up working for an advertising agency in Cincinnati, instead of moving to New York to become an Executive Assistant at one of the four (now three) major record companies. 

Advertising is a crazy business, especially for an inquisitive and logical mind. Some things are exciting and make a lot of sense. Other things are super exciting and make no sense at all. I was in there, and I was pretty hooked on it. Only problem was, I was kind of bummed to be living in Cincinnati as a 23 year old. It has changed since then, but back in the day, Cincinnati wasn’t exactly the best place for a single guy in his early 20’s. Back to the logic. Love the industry, hate the location. Translation: stay in the industry, change the location. 

Now I was Chicago bound, and super excited about the move. Sexy job, sexy city, lots of friends from high school and college were already there to meet me. It was fun … maybe, a little too much fun. But hey, that’s how we learn. We get excited, have fun, make mistakes, and go back to the logic to proceed forward. 

It took me a few years to figure out that the advertising industry wasn’t my cup of tea or, at least that, being a client services guy at an ad agency wasn’t. My logic kept me in the game, and I realized that what I wanted to be involved with didn’t live in Chicago, it lived in New York. I knew myself enough to realize that I was a product of my environment and very impressionable. I imitated my surroundings, and Chicago was changing me into someone I did not want to become (again this is very personal, and has nothing to do with Chicago as a city, which I still love). I used the skills I had acquired to transfer to another agency in New York City, but not before an interesting experience that tested my logic. 

After struggling for over a year with my position at a big agency in Chicago, an executive mentor sat me down and asked me “what are you doing here?” I was floored, but not as floored as I was when he told me that he would “fire me if he had the chance, just to do me a favor.” He told me to figure out my focus quickly, before I became a “jack of all trades, master of none.” You see, all the while I was working at the agency and picking up all of these skills outside of my immediate job description. I couldn’t help myself … my pops had implanted this weird, natural curiosity in me. I have to understand how things work. I have to know the details. I can’t assume things, especially when my assumptions aren’t logical. It makes me feel like I’m missing something and I have to go figure it out. So, the mentor saw that I was all over the place and had interests in all of these different things but I wasn’t happy with what I was doing. That’s probably why he sat me down and told me to get out of there quickly. I appreciate it now because it got me to sit down and re-evaluate my pursuit, but it was also a bit of a blow to the decision-making process that had gotten me there in the first place. Live, learn, decide, proceed. 

When I got to New York and began working for the new agency, the hunch that this wasn’t the role for me slapped me square in the face. New agency, new client, same feeling. I wasn’t happy being a client guy. It put the two sides of my brain in conflict with one another; the creative guy and the business guy upstairs were both very well alive, kicking and beating the crap out of each other. Terrible headache. So once again, it was back to the logic … back to looking at the facts and the things I have learned thus far to answer “if not this, than what?” 

By now it was kind of like dating, in the respect that my experiences had taught me what I liked and what I didn’t like. All of my experimenting had lead me to a few key attributes that I knew were now mandatory. Smaller company. Creative environment. Management that empowered both sides of my brain, instead of just one or the other. I was determined to make moves and when I found the right opportunity, I made them. The only thing I still haven’t figured out yet is how I actually found a place that met all of those criteria, plus a slew of others. That’s why I guess luck does play a role, but in a lot of ways it was the logical decisions that allowed for that luck to find me. 

The reason I am writing all of this now is because I recently read something in (I know, this is something I should’ve read a while ago but still) Robert Kiyosaki’s book “Rich Dad, Poor Dad.” One of the insights of Rich Dad when talking about jobs, gaining practical knowledge and life experiences was:

” You want to know a little about a lot.” 

And granted, I kind of want to know a lot about a lot and it will eventually give me a brain aneurysm,  it was good to see this point of view in writing because it had validated something I naturally ended up doing as a result of making logic-based life decisions that made sense to me. A lot of times we’re not quite sure if we’re making the right decisions, especially when those decisions don’t aline with “common wisdom” or the status quo. It made me think of the executive mentor at my old agency …. the guy did me a huge favor, but he was speaking for himself when he warned me about being a “master of none.” I prefer to disagree, and go for “master of all.” If I don’t succeed well, at least I went for it. But that’s just me though. It seems like the most logical choice. 


thechriswayoflife asked: hey! once i graduate from college, i am moving to new york city. which is next year.. any tips, etc..?? :)

Yes, indeed. Here are some essentials. If I think of more, I will post them as well. 

1. Start planting seeds immediately 

Seems like you’re already doing a bit of this, but recently I’ve become a firm believer in the seeding or fishing approach (pick your metaphor). Plant a ton of seeds, and a few of them will grow into something plentiful. Cast out a bunch of lines, and see which one bites. It’s really a numbers game over time, so make sure you connect with a lot of like minded people in NYC as early as possible, let them know what you’re about and what you’re looking for and stay in touch. Something is bound to go down somehow, somewhere, guaranteed. 

2. Make sure you know what you want and where you want to be within a year or two 

Number 1 made me think of this one … it should probably be first on your list, actually. Have that end game all planned out (or at least loosely planned out). See a vision of yourself living in New York, working at X, hanging out with Y, getting published by Z … or whatever. The more articulated your end game is now, the easier it is to tell people what you’re looking for when you make connections .. and the easier it will be for them to figure out how to help you. So many people don’t know exactly what they’re trying to do .. they’re just trying to “get put on” or whatever. Well, if you’re talking to someone in generalities and just trying to “make it” somehow someway regardless of what that means, it will let people know that you haven’t done your homework and you’re basically wasting their time. 

3. Make sure NYC is definitely your first stop after college

It wasn’t mine, man. A friend convinced me to take a detour through Chicago. I was going to move straight to NYC in 2007 right after college but without any experience and looking to get into the music industry, I was looking at an assistant gig with a major label working for peanuts. If I did that, I would be living out of a cardboard refrigerator box within 6 months. Instead I went to Chicago, gained a few years of experience in a city that was a little bit cheaper and easier to handle, then came to NYC guns a blazin’. 

4. If NYC is definitely the first stop, then get smart about money immediately 

Read some stuff about personal money management. For real. When I got my first gig after college and I wasn’t broke broke no mo’, I went HAM … as in, throwin’ dough around like I really had some. Luckily this all went down in Chicago, so it wasn’t as crazy as it could’ve been if I did the same thing in New York. When you come out here, you need to know how to manage your money so you don’t end up broke and in debt. 

5. Make sure your living situation is chill 

Everyone in New York seems to have a Craigslist nightmare story. Choose roommates wisely, and if you’re going to live with someone you already know, try to pick someone who will be a helpful and positive influence.

6. When you get here, stay focused 

I can only assume you’re moving to NYC to get somethin’ poppin .. as in, make shit happen. Well, make sure you do that and don’t get distracted by how fucking fun New York can be. You’re going to have a lot of fun, but make sure you’re working your ass off too. Otherwise, what’s the point of living in the most expensive city in the world? The reason it’s so expensive is because landowners and landlords know people are willing to pay the high rent in order to be close to the action … they’re trying to make shit happen, and willing to pay for the location. It’s like an investment in your future gangsterism. Feel me? 

7. A short word on side hustles … 

Everybody out here got ‘em. You got your main gig, and your side gig. If those overlap somehow, even better. Part of it is for the extra dough, and part of it is for the extra fun you have. And the extra people you’re going to meet. And the extra opportunities you will be exposed to. So much extra. 

8. Move to Brooklyn 

Right out of college? For real, if you’re rolling with family dough definitely get a dope ass spot in the city….otherwise move to Bushwick. 

9. Choose your friends wisely 

Sort of relates to #5 … when you make new friends in the city, make sure they’re good for ya. You will meet some party motherfuckers out here and they will want to go out constantly … they will talk to you about all the shit they have going on when they don’t do shit but drink PBR and spend (someone else’s??) dough senselessly. Definitely keep a party crew around, but find some people that are into the same productive shit you’re into as well, just to keep a good balance and keep your eye on the prize. 

10. Buy groceries and learn to cook 

If you’re not in the habit already, get your cook on. Save money and make yourself a more awesome person. 

You will notice a common thread in the list above: work and money. But I mean, that’s pretty much a common thread for this city. Work hard, play hard, be smart with your money and don’t let the city chew you up and spit you out. Instead, use the city and all it has to offer to further yourself personally, professionally and perhaps even spiritually. 

Have fun, young homey!